As I start out 2013, I think back to some of the key moments in my life that have shaped my world view. One such moment was the time a relative (a couple years younger than me) mentioned that I was known as the “throwaway child” in her household. Needless to say, this tidbit my relative shared wasn’t helpful at the time and I wished she had kept it to herself.
However, as the years went on and I had my own children, the image of the “throwaway child” was a robust reminder of how grateful I was for the opportunity to work hard and achieve based on my own merit–only in America (at least prior to 2008). My achievements allowed me to rise from the self-doubt that emanated from my parent’s lack of affection and care. I always believed that once I was no longer directly affected by my parents’ poor choices, I could reap the benefits of my own choices and perhaps be free of the drama that plagued my parents’ lives.
I am a conservative today because my parents were not. Without any guidance, I simply made the opposite choices they did and have enjoyed different results. Simple math. If you’re a throwaway child, you too can triumph in marriage and child rearing, however, it will probably require adhering to traditional beliefs.
If you’re a conservative then you’re most likely a Republican. However, that relationship is definitely changing. There are many in the Republican establishment echoing the insults of Democrats who call traditional values “tinfoil hat” issues. These establishment Republicans need us tinfoil hat people if they’re going to win elections (Mitt Romney lost because the tinfoil hats didn’t show up). To sum up, the data doesn’t lie: overall, if you just stay married and don’t divorce, you’ll be wealthier and healthier than those who bail on their marriage and kids.